I would indeed move. However you have to make all the moving parts work.Dear Wife and I have lived in a community for the past dozen years that has never risen above “meh” in regards to friendships, cultural opportunities, and our general feeling at home in it. We have both climbed into jobs that have increased satisfaction, responsibilities and pay - I could work remotely; she could not. We’re thinking of moving to an area where there’s more family and more population which translates to more opportunities in a bunch of ways (including for our young kids).
Anyone else found themselves ill -suited for a community (or their community ill-suited for them), and what did it/would it take to pull up stakes and move?
While we’re not happy socially/culturally here, we love our home, our kids have friends, and we have a lot of the stuff figured out (kids have a few activities they like; family enjoys fam martial arts, etc), which makes it harder to contemplate the complexity of moving. So DW is searching for a job that may contribute some activation energy that would get us off the fence.
You only get one life. One of my siblings is professionally very successful, strong family life etc. However he's never liked the mid-sized city he moved to (it is very outdoorsy, big government town and he works (hard) in the private sector). Still doesn't after 30 years. I might have moved there (had I married a different person) and I think I too would have struggled. I have stuck to big cities all my life.
One caveat. You may not find what you seek in a more comfortable area. People tend to be busy, and so it's hard to break in anywhere. It's hard to make friendships as one gets older, I find.
OTOH having people around of similar hobbies, interests and views of the world is nice.
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